I started this dicussion on the livejournal group, energy_healers.

The question I pose for you, if you are healing, would you harm someone or not? Meaning, if the harm would heal them. Not for the sake of, I am healing you, but I feel like hurting you for the helluvit.

About this healing or even helping in any way I can give you interesting example.

Husband of my and my boyfriend's friend was going to have difficult surgery and he could easily loose his legs during it.
I and my bf have decided to help him by sending energy. We don't know this person and nobody was asking us for help. We had problem with intention and each of us invent some without knowing what the other person is doing. My intention was to help this person accept whatever will come and surgery to go in way which is the best for his development. Second time I tried to send energy with intention of give his body energy to heal but it didn't worked at all. My bf set intention of heal body and rebuild relationship between our friend and his husband. This one has worked but my bf had felling that he shouldn't be helping in that way.
In the end husband of our friend has loose his legs.

My mum is telling that we shouldn't be doing a thing without ask for help, but I think that it's matter of intuitively feeling when our help is needed and in what form. I don't regret my first send of energy and when I'll feel that I should help I'll do this without waiting for asking of help.

This is an important point. In reiki and several other schools of healing you learn to ask the other person (even if he is not there) if they are open for receiving healing energy. And next to that you have to (and must in my opinion) be aware of when energy starts flowing back. If you give healing energy and you get it back then stop what you are doing. Too many people think about sensing energy as healing. This is very incomplete. Sometimes you have to take things away sometimes you need to plug up holes, smooth out spots, transform other places and a lot more. So my view: dont bluntly send out energy. Be very aware of what you do and always be aware of the process, listen, feel, look, sense continuously and simply ask (verbally of non verbally). And train your senses to achieve high levels of awareness. Then this whole issue would not appear...

I absolutely would. Without hesitation. And I very much encourage all of my students to do the same.

There is, of course, a difference between hurting and harming. If you harm someone, you are obviously not healing. What I'm talking about is hurting someone with or in the purpose of healing them. And that's ok.

There are many within the new agy and spiritual community who have moral rules about "do only good", "do no harm" and "ask for permission". These rules are limiting. If there is something you feel you have to do, because it scans to you, because it is true to who you are and your intuition says it's needed, then you do it. No matter what some rule says.

If you refuse to cause someone pain, discomfort, chaos, emotional turmoil or damage, you are limiting your effectiveness as a healer. Sometimes, if an arm has been broken and healed twistedly, you need to break that arm again before you can set it and let it heal again. Which causes damage and pain. And that's ok. It's not something to feel guilty about. Celebrate your actions.

If you insist on asking permission before doing healing work, you are also limiting your effectiveness as a healer. If you are certain you know what you're doing, you can absolutely work on someone without letting them know, or even if they specifically tell you they don't want it. Most people have absolutely no idea what they want and what they need. If you're sure that you do, then yes, you can definitely interfere, and they will be better for it. I've done so many many times, and sometimes my students wonder why they're suddenly making progress


And I very much agree with piccolo. If you do any work on anyone at all, including yourself: know what you're doing. Be aware, be trained, be careful. But also don't be timid and apologetic about your work.